When it comes to proposals, the ladies have it easy.
Let’s face it, asking someone to spend the rest of their life with you is a big deal. It’s like saying: “I think I’m great, we’re great, and you should hitch your cart to this wagon”. It’s advisable you don’t use those exact words, but that’s the general gist. Few of us are ever going to do something that is going to expose us to fear, uncertainty and gut-wrenching hope the way a proposal is. Your intended holds your whole future in her hands, and no matter how sure you are, there’s always that element of doubt.
If you’re thinking the time is coming to get down on one knee (or however you want to do it) – there are ways to lessen the stress. And I’m not just talking about dropping hints you think it’d be great if your girlfriend were the one to propose, either. You can do this! You just maybe need a few nudges to get you there.
#1 – Talk To Her
What Not To Do: “Girlfriend, I love you and want to ask you to marry me. How would you feel about that? If I did that, would you say yes or shatter my heart into a billion pieces and wreck my entire existence?”
What To Do: Be subtle; even make it a joke. She does something that makes you proud of her? Joke, “any more of this and I might just have to put a ring on it”. The way she responds – laughing and nodding along, or running out of the room screaming – will tell you a lot about where she’s at.
#2 – Engage Subterfuge
Her friends; her Mom; anyone in her life, really. You can get an idea of where your girlfriend is at by talking to them, so long as you can trust them with the secret. If you are going to go down this route, then it’s best to make sure you plan to propose pretty soon after. The longer you leave it, the more at risk the secret is.
#3 – Ring Talk
You have two options when it comes to the ring.
a) You buy a cheap costume ring as a representative of the sentiment, and then she chooses the one she wants to wear for the rest of her life.
- b) You take a gamble and buy the real ring from the off. There’s plenty of ways to do it, from browsing diamond engagement rings to quizzing her about gemstone preference. Don’t worry too much about ring size, though. Most rings can be adapted, so no string-around-the-ring-finger tricks for you.
#4 – Plan Something She’d Love
Not every woman wants a big proposal worthy of YouTube. On the other hand, some women will feel it’s an opportunity missed if you don’t go all out. If you don’t know which kind of woman your girlfriend is, there’s a chance you don’t know her well enough to be proposing. Small and quiet or loud and proud? Always put her in mind when it comes to the planning. That’s a pretty good rule for marriage, too!